Fathers and Failure

A Q&A with Tim Bayly the author of Daddy Tried

Tim_pic.jpgQ: What motivated you to write the book? What do you hope it will accomplish in the hearts of readers?

A: I primarily wanted to encourage fathers. Fathers won’t be able to avoid failure. Just look at our Old Testament fathers Noah, Abraham, Lot, Jacob, and King David. The Bible documents their failures with painful specificity, yet God’s grace was sufficient for each of them, and it’s sufficient for us.

Many young men have a tendency to underrate failure. Failure is a wonderful teacher and it makes us humble. But when we are controlled by a fear of failure, we don’t take risks and fatherhood is all about risk. So I wanted to address the idea of failure head on and encourage men to get to know God the Father and to copy His fatherhood. Yes, of course we will fail, but faith in our Lord Jesus will help us fail in the right direction.

Q: In your opinion, what is the greatest challenge facing the family in our culture today?

A: The authority of fathers and mothers is being displaced by the state. God made fathers and mothers to be the “natural sovereigns” over their children, but sadly, government is becoming increasingly intrusive within the family unit and usurping the authority delegated to Dad and Mom by God Himself.

Q: A lot of books have been written about fatherhood. What makes this one unique?

A: Daddy Tried starts with the fatherhood of God. It doesn’t try to give fathers a bunch of do-this-and-don’t-do-that rules but teaches fathers the character of the Father Almighty and calls men to model their fatherhood after His example. It doesn’t promise success. It promises failure, but at the same time shows from Scripture that we must, by faith, fail in the right direction.

Q: There are a lot of fathers who are physically present within their homes, but emotionally and spiritually absent. What is the best way to begin the process of facilitating their engagement?

A: Preach the Bible and lead worship in a manly way. Checking out emotionally and spiritually is often the result of a man not believing his manhood is needed. Nothing communicates the uselessness of manhood more than worship liturgies and music that are aimed at pleasing the women of the church. It’s the same with preaching. If a church’s preaching is safe; if it communicates that there is no danger now or eternally; if the pastor does not admonish and rebuke and discipline men, but only flatters them; the men of the church are going to save their masculine engagement for places where there are risks and people don’t want his manhood. Emotional and spiritual absence is the way men respond to wives and pastors who hate manhood.

Put danger and eternal consequences back into your preaching. Preach grace and law, justice and mercy, right and wrong, good and evil, Heaven and Hell, circumcision of the foreskin and circumcision of the heart. Tell the disengaged man in your church that you want him to live for God regardless of the cost in terms of respectability, financial success, and good vibes with his wife. Then watch him become emotionally and spiritually present, first at church, and then at home. I know this sounds crazy, but try it.

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